How often do you hear your vet spewing laments like “I’m all screwed up!” or more likely “I’m just all f-d up!” Self-abasing comments of worthlessness and hopelessness. Because of the horrific things they saw and did, many of our beloved warriors also feel they are “beyond redemption.” Whether with God or people. But…
DetailsFunny how living with our vets and PTSD can affect us too. And usually just when we seem to think we have it all together. HA! 🙂 This morning I was in “go” mode, on my way out for the day. On a roll and doing great! Getting ready to pull away from the curb…
DetailsDesperate for a vacation in Hawaii? Better, yet, how about a one way ticket?! (I’ll meet you there). 🙂 Loving and caring for others can take its toll on us, especially at certain times of the year when everything else seems so overwhelming! So how do we love our vets, and those around us,…
Details“I had PTSD but I got over it.” Wow! Really???!? That comment was made by someone in a prominent government position. How about this one: “You have PTSD…at least you weren’t wounded.” Ouch. More insensitive ignorant words from someone (believe it or not) in a veterans organization. How do we as loved ones help our…
DetailsWhat an honor to be written up as woman of the month…not sure I can live up to that, but thankful anyway. 🙂 Here is the article. Thank you, Michal Ann. Woman of the Month: She Turned Three Life Tragedies into Opportunities October 16, 2012 By Michal Ann McArthur Bend, OR If anyone has figured…
DetailsSometimes I feel just like running away. Usually it is when he cannot hear me. I feel like screaming or shouting or crying! What will get him to come to the surface so he can be there to care? When our vets go into their caves, their safe numb place, it hurts us terribly.…
DetailsI witnessed something today that really ruffled my marbles! Deeply disturbing. While munching my lunch in my parked car in an unfamiliar neighborhood, I had a front row seat to a mini melodrama. An older man was wheeling a suitcase out to the car for an older woman (I assume they were married) followed…
DetailsAre you ever afraid to say things to your vet, wondering what wild card is in place today that will set him (or her) off? Walking on eggshells and weighing every word has come to be the norm for many of us. Even though this is typical, it is so discouraging, frustrating, scary, and…
DetailsEnjoying a lively conversation last night over dinner with some other vet wives, we landed- as we often seem to do-on the notion of learning. One of the ladies, married for over 20 years to a veteran with PTSD said, “I’ve been learning so much about how to live over the years. But believe…
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